Self-compassion isn’t about generic mantras. It’s about slowing down to look in the deep dark places in your mind. The corners where you hold shame or self blame.
The places where you question if you are bad, lazy, selfish, unworthy... ________fill in the blank.
It’s about gently walking into that dark corner and considering the possibility that you are wrong about what’s there.
You aren’t the thing you fear.
Self compassion is about finding someone you trust to walk into that corner with you so you can hear them say me too. I’ve been there. And I don’t judge you.
It’s about taking the space to see that no matter the thing you think is true about you, you aren’t in fact, unworthy, weak, broken, incompetent, bad...______fill in the blank.
You are just a human moving through life collecting the dust and dirt of being human. You are a messy fallible being just doing your best to feel good.
You are allowed to be imperfect. You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to fall short.
Go to that corner. Be understanding. Be kind. Be gentle.
That is how you really practice self-compassion.