We do a TERRIBLE job of interpreting our co-workers REAL feelings and experiences? You think you size people up easily. You think you know when your co-worker is confident, happy, angry, entitled… You think you know when someone has their shit together and when they don’t. I am here to tell you that your co-workers and even bosses have secrets. Many of the people you see who appear to be happy, confident, put together and successful are living inside a mental shit-storm. I
You are NOT behind in your career or your life! Stop saying this. Stop believing this. I cannot emphasize this enough. I know what if feels like to think this thought. I have felt it a million times. This comes up for almost ALL my clients at some point. I am here to tell you that this thought will create procrastination, avoidance, angst, and a million other feelings and behaviors you don’t want. Here is what to do instead.
Being in a new job kinda sucks. Yes there is the hopeful feeling of opportunity, excitement of change and possible freedom from your old crappy job. BUT, the insecurity that comes with learning new tasks and roles can feel incredibly destabilizing. In my opinion, not enough people talk about how frustrating this can feel. More often than not, we forget what it feels like to be new. We leave our previous job, where we felt fairly confident and competent, and we enter a spac